{"product_id":"before-you-help-them-becoming-the-kind-of-discipler-god-uses-paperback-1","title":"Before You Help Them: Becoming the Kind of Discipler God Uses - Paperback","description":"\u003cdiv\u003e\u003cp style=\"text-align: right;\"\u003e\u003ca href=\"https:\/\/reportcopyrightinfringement.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow\"\u003e\u003cb\u003eReport copyright infringement\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/a\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003c\/div\u003e\u003cp\u003eby \u003cb\u003eRick Thomas\u003c\/b\u003e (Author)\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eHelping others is rarely as simple as giving advice or sharing Scripture. Many well-intended helpers enter conversations eager to fix problems, offer answers, or relieve discomfort-only to find their efforts fall flat or even cause harm. \u003cstrong\u003eBefore You Help Them\u003c\/strong\u003e calls helpers to pause, examine themselves, and prepare their hearts before stepping into another person's life.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book confronts a foundational but often overlooked truth: you bring yourself into every helping relationship. Your theology, motives, fears, expectations, and unresolved struggles shape how you listen, speak, and respond. Without self-awareness and humility, even biblical truth can be misapplied.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eRick Thomas challenges readers to consider not just \u003cem\u003ewhat\u003c\/em\u003e they say when helping others, but \u003cem\u003ewhy\u003c\/em\u003e they say it. Are you driven by love for God and people-or by a need to be needed, affirmed, successful, or right? Do you listen patiently, or rush toward solutions to ease your own discomfort? These questions matter because they determine whether help is redemptive or controlling.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBefore You Help Them\u003c\/strong\u003e provides a biblical framework for preparing the heart of the helper. It explains how fear of man, self-righteousness, pride, impatience, and self-reliance quietly undermine care. Readers learn why listening is often more important than speaking, why understanding must precede instruction, and why change cannot be forced.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eA central emphasis of the book is the helper's dependence on God. Effective care flows from a posture of humility, prayer, and Spirit-dependence-not from confidence in technique or experience. When helpers understand their own need for grace, they are better equipped to extend grace to others.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThe book also clarifies the difference between helping and fixing. Helping walks with people; fixing manages outcomes. Helping invites repentance and faith; fixing applies pressure. This distinction reshapes counseling, discipleship, parenting, and leadership relationships.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis resource is especially valuable for counselors, pastors, small-group leaders, disciplers, parents, and anyone regularly involved in spiritual care. It is also helpful for those who feel discouraged or ineffective in helping roles and want to grow in wisdom, patience, and biblical clarity.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eBefore You Help Them\u003c\/strong\u003e does not diminish the importance of truth. It strengthens it by putting truth in the hands of humble servants rather than anxious problem-solvers. When helpers tend to their own hearts first, care becomes more relational, more discerning, and more fruitful.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003eThis book equips readers to help others wisely-by starting with themselves, submitting to God's work, and trusting Him with the outcome.\u003c\/p\u003e\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003eLife Over Coffee Publishers\u003c\/strong\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eNumber of Pages:\u003c\/strong\u003e 116\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003eDimensions:\u003c\/strong\u003e 0.24 x 8.5 x 5.5 IN\u003c\/div\u003e\n            \u003cdiv\u003e\n\u003cstrong\u003ePublication Date:\u003c\/strong\u003e January 10, 2026\u003c\/div\u003e\n            ","brand":"BooksCloud","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":53043149734195,"sku":"9781966741268","price":17.78,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0300\/5595\/6612\/files\/07Nvam0NQy9781966741268_364a3def-ed5f-4267-a4d6-b977c7be2992.webp?v=1770840662","url":"https:\/\/www.vysn.com\/en-ca\/products\/before-you-help-them-becoming-the-kind-of-discipler-god-uses-paperback-1","provider":"VYSN","version":"1.0","type":"link"}