The Selfish Year: The Power of Putting Yourself First - Hardcover

by Valerie Jones (Author)

A powerful narrative self-help guide for women ready to prioritize themselves and create beautiful lives

The Selfish Year is not just a book--it's a radical invitation to finally prioritize yourself and design a life that feels deeply aligned, fulfilling, and free.

The Selfish Year chronicles one woman's journey through a year of putting herself first, offering women empowering strategies to redefine selfishness and create a beautiful life, rich relationships, and radical self-love. In an age of female empowerment and advocacy, this book offers tailored strategies specifically designed for women who are tired of being on the back burner, and are ready to redefine selfishness as self-respect, self-worth, and self-love.

This narrative self-help guide takes readers on a revelatory biographical journey through a year in author Valerie Jones' life. Through bold insights and transformational strategies, The Selfish Year empowers you to:

• Break free from codependency and toxic relationship patterns
• Release guilt around prioritizing yourself and set boundaries without apology
• Step into your personal power and create a life that reflects your desires, not just your obligations
• Cultivate unshakable confidence, self-trust, and emotional resilience

This book doesn't just tell a story--it gives you a roadmap for reclaiming your power. With practical exercises, mindset shifts, and real-life lessons, it will help you step into the most unapologetic, empowered version of yourself.

It's time to stop waiting for permission and start living life on your own terms. The Selfish Year is your guide to becoming the woman you were always meant to be.

Front Jacket

What if everything you want begins the moment you put yourself first?

The Selfish Year isn't a pep talk or a Pinterest-worthy self-help book. It's a permission slip soaked in gasoline.

Valerie Jones--creator of The Selfish Woman movement and host of The Selfish Woman podcast--cracked her life wide open by choosing one radical act: putting herself first. What followed was a year of unraveling, unbecoming, and rebuilding--from the ashes up. This is her story, but it's also yours.

This isn't a how-to. It's a manifesto. A reckoning. A rallying cry for every woman who's ever dimmed her fire to keep the peace.

Told with unflinching honesty, fierce humor, and emotional precision, this book shows what happens when a woman decides to burn the rulebook, stop explaining, and live by her own design.

Alongside her story, she shares selfish strategies, bold truths, and invitations to help you rebuild your life from desire, not duty, and finally live on your own terms.

Whether you're stuck in codependent patterns, people-pleasing, or just tired of pretending you're fine, The Selfish Year will meet you there--with honesty, heat, and a roadmap home.

Valerie doesn't give you answers--she hands you the match.

Through blistering honesty, no-BS insights, and moments that punch you in the gut (and then pour you a glass of wine), The Selfish Year is a permission slip and a mirror, a revolution and a return, and a love letter to the woman you were always meant to become.

Read it in the bathtub. Read it at 2 a.m. with mascara on your pillow. Read it when you're staring in the mirror wondering where the hell you went.

Warning: Side effects may include clarity, confidence, and walking away from everything that drains the life out of you.

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Praise for the SELFISH year

"Valerie Jones is one of my favorite women to talk to about healing after divorce and this book is no different. It's like talking to a girlfriend about moving through the pain--and rewards--of coming back to Self. If you've ever wondered what it might be like to finally put yourself first, this book is your guide and Val is your champion."
--KATE ANTHONY, author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage

"The Selfish Year is an insightful roadmap for women who are ready to reclaim their voice and prioritize themselves. Valerie Jones brings honesty, vulnerability, and hard-earned wisdom to a conversation so many women are afraid to have. Her story shows how any woman can stop abandoning herself, heal from the inevitable injuries life inflicts, and find herself again."
--KAREN COVY, divorce coach, lawyer, mediator and the author of When Happily Ever After Ends: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially, and Legally

Author Biography

VALERIE JONES is a writer, podcast host, and the firestarter behind The Selfish Woman movement. Through rebellious storytelling and radical honesty, she helps women come home to themselves. She's led thousands through reinvention--not by fixing them, but by helping them remember who the hell they are. Valerie lives in Vancouver, where she writes, walks in the forest, and continues her own selfish year--one radical choice at a time.